T-Life Group Discussion Questions

Games We Play, Week 3: The Comparison Game

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Message Review       

In Week 3 of the “Games We Play” series, we learned the second relational game we should never play is The Comparison Game because it prevents us from playing The Honor Game. Comparison is the habit of measuring our lives against someone else’s life. The Comparison Game has no winners.

Main Point | The Comparison Game has no winners

Focus Passages | John 21:15-25

Discussion Questions:

  • What were your initial thoughts or takeaways from the sermon, and why?

  • What does it mean, look like, or sound like to play The Comparison Game?

  • Have you ever compared yourself against someone else in an unhealthy way? Why?

  • Has someone ever compared themselves to you in an unhealthy way? How did that impact you or your relationship with them?

  • Why and how does The Comparison Game prevent us from having winning relationships?

  • Other than being relationally devastating, what are some negative consequences of playing The Comparison Game?

  • The Comparison Game has no winners because it leads to pride or discouragement. How have you experienced this in your life?

  • Read John 21:15-25:

    • What words or phrases stand out to you in this passage?

    • What was Jesus communicating to Peter in verses 18-19?

    • How did Peter play The Comparison Game in verses 20-21? Why do you think he played it?

    • What’s the significance of Jesus’ response to Peter in verse 22 when it comes to playing The Comparison Game?

  • Why is The Comparison Game a game we’re so often tempted to play?

  • How do we follow Jesus (John 21:22) when we’re tempted to play The Comparison Game?

  • What does it look like to play the Honor Game when we’re tempted to play The Comparison Game?

  • Who are you comparing yourself to right now?

    • How is that impacting your relationship with them?

    • How is that impacting you?

    • How might that be impacting your relationship with Jesus?

    • What is one practical step you can take to replace The Comparison Game with the Honor Game?

  • How can our group pray for you in this area?

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