Words of Wisdom, Part 4: Designer Marriage
July 13, 2025

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Message Review

In Week 4 of Words of Wisdom, Scott Marion taught about God’s design for marriage and how it reflects something far greater than just a human relationship. Many of us carry assumptions into marriage, shaped by our families, culture, or unmet expectations, that can distort how we view love, leadership, and sacrifice. But when we look to Scripture, we see that marriage was designed to model the love Jesus has for His people. In Ephesians, Paul paints a picture of mutual submission, intentional communication, and sacrificial love. Scott reminded us that living out God’s design doesn’t come naturally—it takes humility, grace, and the power of the Holy Spirit. The invitation? Surrender your marriage to God’s design and experience the blessing that comes from following His lead.

Main Point: When we live God’s design for marriage, we experience God’s blessings within.

Scripture References: Ephesians 4:29-32; 5:21-27, 5:32

Bible Study      

The focus Bible passage from the sermon was Ephesians 5:21-33 Before going to the Sermon Discussion Questions, study the passage by reading through it together, then talk through it using the following Inductive Bible Study Method questions that follow:

  • Context: Discuss the context of this passage (Use the Bible Overview to learn the context)

  • Observation: What do you notice in this passage? What words or phrases stick out to you? And why?

  • Interpretation: What was the author’s original intent in this passage? What main point(s) was he trying to communicate, and why is that important?

  • Application: What is one key takeaway or insight you had from this passage? How can or should you apply it to your life?

  • Questions: What questions/tensions do you have from this passage that you want to discuss?

Discussion Questions

  • What were your initial thoughts or takeaways from the sermon?

  • When you hear the word “submit,” what feelings or thoughts come to mind? Why?

  • What are some cultural messages we hear about marriage that might conflict with God’s design?

  • Have you ever seen a marriage (parents, friends, or mentors) that you admired? What stood out about it?

  • Read Ephesians 4:29–32. What behaviors does Paul say to “get rid of”? Which of these do you think hurts communication most in marriage?

  • Read Ephesians 5:21–24. What does mutual submission look like practically? How does this challenge both spouses?

  • Read Ephesians 5:25–27. Paul compares the husband’s role to how Christ loves the church. How does this elevate the husband's responsibility?

  • Read Ephesians 5:32. What does it mean that marriage is a “profound mystery” that points to Christ and the church?

  • Scott gave practical challenges for husbands and wives. Pick one from each list—what would it look like to live that out this week?

  • In what ways do I need to submit to and/or love my spouse?

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