T-Life Group Discussion Questions

Games We Play, Week 1: The Honor Game

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On Sunday we started a new series entitled “Games We Play.”  We all play games in our relationships.  Relational games that require a loser are a game nobody wins, because the win in the relationship is the relationship. The Honor Game is the only relationship game we should play. When everyone plays, everyone wins, because the relationship wins. The Honor Game is choosing to treat others as though they are more valuable than ourselves.

Main Point | The Honor Game is the only relational game we should play

Focus Passages | Philippians 2:1-11

Discussion Questions:

• What were your initial thoughts or takeaways from the sermon, and why?

• What do you think the “win” is in a relationship?

• Ronnie said, “The win in the relationship is the relationship.” What does that mean, and why is that the win?

• What are some relational “games” we play that can cause the relationship to lose, and why do we tend to play those games?

• The Apostle Paul introduced us to the only relational game we should play in Romans 12.

  Read Romans 12:10:

  • What does it mean to be devoted to one another in love?

  • What does it mean to honor one another above ourselves?

• The relational game Paul introduced us to is the Honor Game: treating others as though they are more valuable than yourself. 

  • Why does Paul instruct us to play the Honor Game?

  • What prevents you from playing the Honor Game?

• Read Philippians 2:1-11:

  • What words or phrases stand out to you in this passage?

  • What main point(s) is Paul communicating in verses 2-4?

  • How would you define selfish ambition and vain conceit (vs 3)?

  • What does it practically look like to value others above ourselves (vs 4)?

  • How does selfish ambition and vain conceit prevent us from valuing others above ourselves?

  • What must we choose to do in order to value others above ourselves? 

  • What is Paul’s main point in verses 5-11?

• Who in our life is it hard to play the Honor Game with, and why?

  • What is preventing you from playing the Honor Game with them?

  • How might your selfish ambition or vain conceit be preventing you from honoring them above yourself?

  • What do you think could happen in your relationship if the only relational game you played with them was the Honor Game?

  • What is one practical next step you can take to humble yourself and treat them as though they are more valuable than you? 

• How can our group pray for you or this relationship?

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