T-Life Group Discussion Questions

Games We Play, Week 4: The Change Game

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Message Review       

In Week 4 of the “Games We Play” series, we talked about the 3rd relational game we should never play: The Change Game. The Change Game is trying to change others for our benefit instead of theirs, The Honor Game is played with a mirror. The Change Game is played with a magnifier.

Main Point | The Honor Game is played with a mirror. The Change Game is played with a magnifier.

Focus Passages | Matthew 7:1-6

Discussion Questions:

  • What were your initial thoughts or takeaways from the sermon, and why?

  • Have you ever tried to change someone for your own benefit? Why? Did playing The Change Game help or hurt your relationship with them?

  • Has anyone ever tried to change you for their own benefit? How did that impact you or your relationship with them?

  • Why and how does The Change Game prevent us from having winning relationships?

  • Other than being relationally devastating, what are some negative consequences of playing The Change Game?

  • Read Matthew 7:1-6:

    • What words or phrases stand out to you in this passage?

    • In the context of this passage, what is Jesus communicating it means, looks like, or sounds like to judge someone? 

    • In verses 1-2, what did Jesus say the consequence of playing The (judgmental) Change Game is? What does that mean?

    • What main point was Jesus communicating in verses 3-4?

    • What is Jesus trying to help us see about ourselves in verses 3-4?

    • Why is The (judgmental) Change Game a game we’re so often tempted to play?

    • According to Jesus, who are hypocrites, and why?

    • What main point was Jesus communicating in verse 5? What does it mean, look like, or sound like to do that?

  • What is the difference between helping someone be transformed into everything God created them to be, and trying to change them for our benefit?

  • Ronnie said The Honor Game is played with a mirror. The Change Game is played with a magnifier. What does that mean?

  • How can you tell if you’re playing The Honor Game or The Change Game?

  • Be honest – What do you walk around with most: a magnifier or a mirror?

    • What would other people say you walk around with most, and why?

  • With whom do you need to put down the magnifier and pick up the mirror?

    • What will it require of you to do that?

    • How can our group pray for you to take a next step to do it?

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