Have you ever felt like you were all alone in something? It can be defeating. Maybe you have thought that it would be easier just to quit. Well, what leaders do is too important because “Great Leaders are the hope of the Church.” So, we need to hold each other up, supporting one another.
Exodus 17:10-13: So Joshua fought the Amalekites as Moses had ordered, and Moses, Aaron and Hur went to the top of the hill. 11 As long as Moses held up his hands, the Israelites were winning, but whenever he lowered his hands, the Amalekites were winning. 12 When Moses’ hands grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him and he sat on it. Aaron and Hur held his hands up—one on one side, one on the other—so that his hands remained steady till sunset. 13 So Joshua overcame the Amalekite army with the sword.
PRACTICAL WAYS TO SUPPORT THE LEADER THAT YOU ARE COACHING
Praying for the Leader you are coaching (Ephesians 6:18)
Pray for their relationship with Jesus
Pray for their marriage
Pray for their children
Pray for their ministry
Pray that they would be fully equipping (2 Timothy 3:17)
“Checking the RPM’S” Conversations: RPM’s conversations provide accountability and encouragement in four key areas of the leader’s life – (1) Relational, (2) Physical, (3) Mental, (4) Spiritual
“The 6 Coaching Questions” Conversations: The simplest and yet most effective way to have a Leadership Coaching Conversation, is by a coach simply asking the following 6 questions when they meets with a leader.
How are you?: Since the heart of effective coaching is relational, starting with this question helps to see how the leader is really doing.
Where/how are you winning?: This question helps start the conversations with where the leader is feeling successful. It provides an opportunity for encouragement.
What challenges are you experiencing?: This questions gives the leader an opportunity to talk about the things where development, help, or guidance may be needed in their life or leadership.
How will you tackle those challenges?: The best way to serve a leader is not to solve their problems for them, but to help them tap into the wisdom and insight God has already given them. This question helps the coach draw those answers/solutions out of the leader.
How can I help you?: This question helps a coach discern if/how they can help the leader.
How can I pray for you?: The best way to wrap up a leadership coaching conversation is to ask the leader how they need prayer, and then to take a few moments to pray.
Help the Leader you are coaching navigate difficult situations (resolve conflict)
Talk to them about the situation, nothing worse than feeling alone in your situation (1 Thessalonians 5:11)
Pray with your Leader for the difficult situation (Matthew 5:44)
Encourage your Leader to go directly to the source (Matthew 18:15)
If that doesn’t resolve the issue, approach the situation with your leader (Matthew 18:16)
If that doesn’t resolve the issue, bring the issue to your Ministry Leader (Matthew 18:17)
What to do when the leader you are coaching is stuck
Make sure to start with listening to the leader you are coaching. Many times processing out loud can help bring light to a situation.
Don’t look to solve the problem. They are much better equipped to handle their own situations because they live in them. They just might need some help getting unstuck.
Ask questions. When leaders can process their situation in a healthy way, they are more likely to take ownership of the situation and get excited about resolving the problem. Don’t ask leading questions, trying to guide them to a specific conclusion. Let them discover what God is leading them to.
Cast vison of what could be. Share examples from your life. Bring encouragement. Help them get excited to tackle the issue.
Pray with them before they address the situation.
Pray for them as they address the situation.
Click on this link to download the COACHING PLAN to SUPPORT in the leader you are coaching