Fill the Gap
March 31 - April 06 • Week 4: Proactive vs. Reactive

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Gaps leave room for either suspicion or trust. Trust is the glue that mends hurting relationships, heals broken relationships, and improves current relationships. Being trustworthy requires us to be proactive in our relationships rather than reactive. When we are trustworthy, we walk in the light and have fellowship with one another, actively practicing confession. 

Main Point: 

When I’m convinced I will not be able to fulfill an expectation, I will tell you ahead of time.

Discussion Questions

  1. Reflect upon your younger years. When you created a gap with your mother or father, were you one to tell the truth reactively or proactively? Share a story on either side and the outcome. 

  2. Now think about your current responses to gaps you have created. Would you say that you address them reactively or proactively? And why? (Think your marriage, your friendship, your co-worker, your boss, etc.)

  3. On Sunday, Ronnie shared a story about an employee who came to him to say that he was not going to be able to meet expectations. That employee was owning up to a failure before it actually happened. And Ronnie said the situation actually increased his trust in him. Have you ever experienced something similar where someone owned up to a failure before it even happened? What was your response? (Think your marriage, your friendships, job, etc.)

  4. Open your Bibles and read 1 John 1:5-9 together. Pay attention to the key words: fellowship with one another. Our vertical relationship with God are connected to our horizontal relationships with one another. What are practical ways we can we walk in the light of Jesus with one another?

  5. What stops you from confessing your sins to others? Take some time now to share your responses with one another in your group and pray for one another to have the strength and courage to proactively confess to those in your life in which gaps have been created.

Next Step Challenge

When we confess our sins to God, we close the gap with Him, but a gap can still exist between you and others. In order to close that gap and prove yourself trustworthy, confessing your sins to them is your next step. This week, make a list of the gaps created in your life and write down your confessions. Pray through the list and ask the Lord to give you boldness, courage, and the right words to talk with that person or people and trust Him to do the work that only He can do.

Key Verse

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” – 1 John 1:9

All Other Scripture References: 

1 John 1:5-9

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